Tuesday Night Zoom Meeting History/Group Conscience

 
This meeting began June 15, 2021.  We had our first Group Conscience to July 20, 2021 and made the following decisions concerning the meeting:

 

1. Determined that there was sufficient commitment to make the meeting viable.

 

2. Decided to allow chairs to use of literature from other (traditional) 12 Step programs, with  word substitution, provisionally.  The group will reexamine this policy in 6 weeks.

 

3. Decided to use PayPal for 7th Tradition contributions

 

4. Agreed that although our current expenses are negligible (89 cents annually to use a member’s Zoom account for one hour each week), having our own Zoom account ($150/year) is preferable.   There will also be additional expenses for outreach via either contributions to Sunday’s web page or hosting our own.  With this in mind, we will begin collecting 7th tradition donations.

 

5. Decided to actively encourage additional participation in our meeting.  We will ask the Sunday night web page list our meeting, and will ask Workaholic members to let their friends and family know about it.

 

6. Although we think we’ll need a Treasurer (to collect and disburse funds), a Secretary (to keep track of who is chairing, get newcomers contact info onto the list, and possibly serve as timer), and an Intergroup Rep (to keep us abreast of what is happening in other meetings and to facilitate cooperation on joint projects), we did not elect anyone to those positions yet.

 

7. We determined that we do want to time our shares to be sure that everyone who desires to do so will have time to share.
 

A member agreed to put together a rough draft of our new format.

 

We agreed to hold another group conscience in 6 weeks on 8/31/21 to see how the new format is working.

 

Second Group Conscience was held 8/31/21.  Substantial unanimity was sought, and changes were only made when all present agreed.  The following came out of that meeting:

 

1. Many small changes to the Format/Script were approved, but the overall script remained the same.

 

2. A member had suggested that we add a reading of the 12 Steps of Work-Anon along with the tradition of the month.  Some members felt that doing so would make too much reading and allow less time for sharing.  Since we were not all agreed, we did not make the change.

 

3. A member had suggested that the self-care reading be the Chair's choice.  Not all were in favor so it was not approved.  We decided that by having a set rotation, it would lend stability to the meeting, and simplify the Chair's responsibilities.  Since that limited the self-care readings to the number of Tuesdays in a month, one member agreed to pick 5 for the script and we can make changes at future Group Consciences as needed.

 

4. Although it was not addressed directly, no concerns had been raised concerning use of literature from other 12 Step fellowships (with word substitution).

 
Third Group Conscience was held 12/14/21.  The following came out of that meeting:
 
  • Zoom Bombings: The group decided that in the case that we are the target of a Zoom bombing, the Tech Host will remove the individual from the meeting and can impliment a waiting room to create an extra layer of security.
  • Break up format at the start of the meeting to allow others to help with reading - Added voluntary readers for both a Work-Anon Preamble and Group Comfort Guidelines
  • Think about our Self-Care reading choices - Modified
1st Tuesday: Feelings Chart           (ACA)
2nd Tuesday: Affirmations              (ACA)
3rd Tuesday: Feelings Chart           (ACA)
4th Tuesday: Al-Anon Promises      (Al-Anon)
5th Tuesday: Chairperson’s Choice
  • Change Group Comfort Rules to Group Comfort Guidelines  - Approved 
  • Change the closing prayer - Changed to Seventh Step Prayer 
"My Creator, I am now willing that you should have all of Me, good and bad.
I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character that stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows.
Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen."
  • Modify wording around identifying with another 12 step program - Approved
Please keep the focus on the Work-Anon program and not other 12-step programs.
  • Modify "Cross talk" definition - Approved
No crosstalk. This means no criticism of another member, and no direct comments or questions to another member, no conversations. 
  • Discontinue greeting one another by name after the start of the meeting - Approved
  • Share in an order unrelated to when one enters the meeting - Approved
Sharing is voluntary and can be done in any order. 
  • Change "Group Comfort Rules" to "Group Comfort Guidelines" - Approved and shortened
    • No crosstalk.  This means no criticism of another member, and no direct comments or questions to another member, no conversations.
    • Please respect the anonymity of those who share with us today. What you hear at this meeting should remain at the meeting.
    • In our shares, we focus on own behavior and thinking, not that of the workaholic.
    • Please keep the focus on the Work-Anon program and not other 12-step programs.
    • Please turn off your video when moving around and doing tasks besides active listening. Feel free to keep your video off if you so choose.
    • Mute your audio unless speaking, to minimize distractions or disruptions for other members. 
    • The tech host may mute your microphone when needed to allow participants a quiet space to share. You can turn them back on when you need to.

 

 

Our fourth Group Conscience was held 4/26/22.  The following came out of that meeting:

 

1. Made a decision to modify the group comfort guidelines to better specify what is meant by "crosstalk."  In particular, no advice is given (I or me rather than you or we), and we share our own experience, strength and hope (rather than talking about another member's share).  It was also agreed that the chair will only interrupt a speaker to protect group members from crosstalk.  Other comort guideline violations will be handled gently, and at the chair's descretion, after the speaker has finished.  Special lattitude will be given to newcomers.

 

2. Affirmed that we have a core of six members who plan to be regular attenders and to provide service as needed.

 

3. Made a decision to change the weekly meeting time to 7:30 to better accomodate the current membership.

 

4. Made a decision to compile and maintain a contact list specific to the Tuesday Zoom meeting.

 

 

 

 

Current Draft for the Script/Format of the Tuesday Night Zoom Meeting

The Work-Anon Tuesday night Zoom Script   (5/9/22)

 

Notes for meeting leaders: Please review, prior to starting the meeting, promptly at 7:30pm, EST

·    Check your chat for any messages from the Tech Host or cohosts.

·    Ask for two volunteer readers (one for the Work-Anon Preamble and one for the Group Comfort Guidelines)
·    Gallery view is best for viewing all participants.
·    Please keep your mic muted when others are reading or sharing to reduce feedback.
·    Cohosts will provide support with keeping time, and muting mics / video as needed.
·    In this script, italics are notes to hosts/chairs. Non-italics are the script.

 

OPEN THE MEETING: at 7:30 pm EST

 

Good Evening, morning, afternoon, everyone! Welcome to our WORK-ANON Tuesday night RECOVERY meeting. My name is __________ and I’ll be your Chairperson today. 

 

Work-Anon Family Groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of workaholics who share their experience strength and hope in order to solve their common problems. We believe that work addiction is a family illness and that changed attitudes can aid recovery. Work-Anon has but one purpose: to help families, friends, and co-workers of workaholics. We do this by practicing the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of Work-Anon. I have asked _______ to read the Work-Anon Preamble.

 

Work-Anon Preamble

 

For some of us, Work-Anon was a last resort: we were in pain, we were desperate, some of us had abandoned hope. We knew that our suffering was related to someone else’s work addiction, and we knew that we were unable to lead a normal life because of it. When we first arrived at Work-Anon, we may have thought we would learn how to stop the workaholic from acting out with work. At Work-Anon we heard that we could not make another person change, we can only heal ourselves. The program of Work-Anon teaches us that we are each responsible for dealing with our own pain, and we learn to place our trust in a Power greater than ourselves. The emphasis is lifted from the workaholic and placed where appropriate – on ourselves. When we tell our story, it is not the work addict’s story, it is the story of our own recovery. Through the Work-Anon program, we experience spiritual growth and we discover feelings of self-worth, strength and hope. We welcome you and hope that here you may recover through using the Twelve Steps and this fellowship.

 

Please join me in the People version of the Serenity Prayer:

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know that one is me.”

 

This is a recovery meeting. We will have introductions of newcomers, review the Group Comfort Guidelines, then I will read a passage from a relevant 12-step literature with word substitution as necessary, after which we have a 2-minute meditation. We will then share on today’s reading. After everyone shares who would like to, or at 8:15, we will go into our self-care reading for tonight, followed by 1 minute shares. At 8:25 we will wrap up the meeting with announcements and our closing prayer.  Everyone is welcome to share, or not, as they wish.

 

Newcomer Welcome (To be read if there are newcomers): 

The Chairperson will ask newcomers to introduce themselves.

Please un-mute and introduce yourself if you are new to Work-Anon, or new to the Tuesday night meeting, so that we may welcome you.  Please put your email address and phone number in the chat if you want to be included on the contact list and have a copy of the list emailed to you.

       

We would like to welcome you to our meeting. We know the courage it takes to admit there is a problem and to try to find help.  All of us in this room were in your shoes at one time. Stick around and talk to one of us after the meeting if you have any questions. 

 

We recommend that you come to at least 6 meetings before deciding whether Work-Anon has anything to offer you. You will find that each meeting is a little bit different.  It is our sincerest hope that you will find what you are looking for.

 

 

I have asked ________ to read the Group Comfort Guidelines.

 

GROUP COMFORT Guidelines:  (By Group consensus
·     No crosstalk.  
In this meeting, you may refer to someone else’s share as it relates to your experience, strength or hope. However, please refrain from any comments that may be construed as criticism, advice or judgement of another member. Also, please avoid direct comments or questions to another member, no conversations. 

·    Please respect the anonymity of those who share with us today. What you hear at this meeting should remain at the meeting. 

·    In our shares, we focus on own behavior and thinking, not that of the workaholic.

·    Please keep the focus on the Work-Anon program and not other 12-step programs.

·    Please turn off your video when moving around and doing tasks besides active listening. Feel free to keep your video off if you so choose.

 ·    Mute your audio unless speaking, to minimize distractions or disruptions for other members. 

·    The tech host may mute your microphone when needed to allow participants a quiet space to share. You can turn them back on when you need to.

 

READING: 
 (Chair does reading- ideally no more than 2-3 minutes. Announce source of reading and page reference).

 

MEDITATION:
Everyone, please mute your audio now, as we go into our 2-minute silent meditation. I will welcome you back after two minutes.

Chairperson, set your timer for 2 minutes and mute your audio. After 2 minutes:

 

Welcome back, everyone.  It’s now time for sharing on the topic of today's reading.  Please set your timer for 3 minutes.  If you don’t have a timer, just ask, and someone in the group will keep time for you.

 

Sharing is voluntary and can be done in any order. (The meeting is now open for sharing).

 

SELF-CARE READING at 8:15: 
(Feelings chart, Affirmations, Promises, etc. from various 12 step programs)
For the self-care reading (except the feelings chart), we take turns reading from the list until we complete it.  Then the floor is open (no set order) for 1-minute shares – based on whichever part of the self-care reading touched or inspired you today.
1st Tuesday: Feelings Chart    (ACA)
2nd Tuesday: Affirmations        (ACA)
3rd Tuesday: Feelings Chart             (ACA)
4th Tuesday: Al-Anon Promises      (Al-Anon)

5th Tuesday: Chairperson’s Choice


ANNOUNCEMENTS: 8:25    
A few general announcements…

·    We open this room each Tuesday at 7:20 Eastern Time 

·    Announce any group conscious meetings, other meetings.  Everyone is invited to attend. 

     If you’d like to connect with another member or sponsor, please reach out here or via the contact list.

·    Who would like to chair our meeting next week?

     If you are interested in serving as “Host” for future meetings, please let us know.

 

·    We are self-supporting through our own contributions, declining outside donations.  If you wish to contribute to support this meeting, you can donate through Paypal using the link in the chat (https://paypal.me/BruceB349?locale.x=en_US.)  In most 12 step meetings, those contributing tend to give about $2 per meeting, although everyone is welcome to fully participate - we have no dues or fees.  If you are new to our meeting, please be our guest. 


·    Are there any other announcements from the floor?
                                    
Chairperson facilitates announcements and information. If people have questions, ask them to remain after the meeting to address their questions.

 

CLOSING PRAYER: 8:30

With no other announcements, I invite you all to un-mute and join me in the Seventh Step Prayer pausing at the end of each line to help us stay together.

"My Creator,

I am now willing that you should have all of Me, good and bad.

I pray that you now remove from me every single defect of character

that stands in the way of my usefulness to you and my fellows.

Grant me strength, as I go out from here, to do your bidding. Amen."

 

Thank everyone for being there and say goodbye.
You did a great job and the meeting couldn’t happen without you.